how you know you love someone

You can break me

You know exactly how to do it

know exactly the tender places

the weak ones

the places of me

that aren't all shored up

You know how far to push

and where

You know how hard to hit

to draw blood and tears

You can take this strong body

and tear it apart

with words and blows and meanings

throwing the pieces

so far apart

I’ll never be whole again

You can break me

you know all the ways

to make me fall

when I’m vulnerable

soft and scared

because you’ve seen me these ways

And because of this

I know that I love you

because you can break me

utterly destroy me

But you won’t

no, you hand me a hammer

and some nails, instead

and say, “Let’s build”

I did not send your letter

I wrote you a letter
things I want to say to you
thoughts I cannot voice
except on blank white sheets
safe here where you can't see
so many things you never knew
but wish I could bring myself
to say to you face-to-face
I wrote them in a letter
one I knew I would not send
but I cannot bear to throw it out
I wrote you a letter
because you never knew
how thoughts of you when I'm here
help to pull me through
I run your words through my head
wonder how many of them you meant
and if you ever realized
how much they meant to me
I told you in a letter
how much I think of you
folded, addressed, and stamped
so you would know I care
But I did not send your letter

maybe I'm a little angry

Your eyes light up
when you tell me
about where you're going to go
that I can't possibly
hold it against you
even though
I don't want you to
But maybe I'm a little angry
that you're leaving me
but I never told you it mattered
You're putting on your uniform
strapping on radio and pistol
I say good luck, not what I wished
I had thought to say
before you leave and walk away
You're taking a little piece of me with you
and never even knew

know this

A drunk text at one a.m.

Too little too late to meet again

Still we say see you soon, not goodbye

Never was gonna be another try

Note and picture left at your door

Can’t say it doesn’t matter anymore

It always did and you needed to know

At least had to say it before I go

You were always a for now, not forever

There are lives out there for us that are better

But I can’t live with what I can’t say

Regret is so much harder, anyway

Who knows, maybe we’ll meet again

Who can say where, if ever, and when

Life’s crazy and hard but it goes on

And we’ll never understand it til we’re gone

But you should know you mattered to me

The way you laugh, work, play, and bleed

It’s not enough and never will be

Stay here for a minute and, damn it, tell me

Tell me I mattered to you, even just for a while

I don’t care if you mean it, go ahead—lie

4 a.m., your last text came in

Said sorry I didn’t get to see you again

My flight’s coming in and there’s no time left

When I get back, you’ll be long gone, I suspect

But before we say goodbye, see you soon, whatever

I’ll whisper this because I can’t hang on forever

You were never mine, I get it, I know

But if I never told you so,

Believe me when I tell you this:

Whatever the time, whatever the distance,

Of all the different lives we lead,

You were always my favorite dream

I never knew

I never knew

why you always go

running at midnight

with your music loud

over your footsteps

slapping the pavement

to drown out the sound

And how you would drive

hundreds of miles

for a buddy

you barely know

I never knew

why she loves you

and you sometimes love her

but not enough to say

for good

I never knew

when I found you that night

too many drinks in

to remember the sight

of me standing at your door

And the words running

along your chest

the stories

you never said

I never knew why

you never say that you care

but turned around in the dark

to pull me through

I never knew why

I can’t tell you that it matters

that you matter to me

because you will laugh

and maybe take

another step back

to keep your distance

like you always do

And I never knew why

you did that

until I saw these words

painted on your wall:

Fallujah will forever

be a part of you

And all of a sudden

I knew

don't say you don't care

you can lie to me
all you want
tell me anything you think
I want to hear
you can say it matters
when it doesn't
you can say you like it
when you don't
you can say you hate it
when you don't
you can say you will
when you won't
you can say it's over
when it isn't
you can say it'll happen
when it won't
you can say you'll do it
when you won't
you can say you won't do it
when you will
you can say you need it
when you don't
you can say you want it
when you don't

you can say to go ahead
when you know I won't

you can lie to me
all you want
but don't say
you don't care
because when I catch you
looking at me that way
I don't believe you

Beautiful The Way

Standing here with me

I think that you are beautiful

I want time to stop

For just a moment

Long enough to catch my breath

So I can always remember you

Exactly as you are right now

You are beautiful

Is it strange to say that

About a man?

Well, you are beautiful

Beautiful the way

Rockets bursting across the sky

Over Fallujah are beautiful

Showers of heat and light and color

Lighting the faces of the whole platoon

Beautiful the way

Red is beautiful

Running as a bloody river

From the kisses of death on skin

My God, you are beautiful

Beautiful the way

Holes dug in earth are beautiful

To find a little peace on earth

From incoming fire

That never seems to end

Beautiful the way

Reunions are beautiful

When you clasp loved ones so tight

You forget to let them breathe

You are beautiful

Beautiful the way

Tattoos are beautiful

Etched across your skin

Both stories and scars

Words and faces and the Corps

Inked all over your body

You are so damn beautiful

Beautiful the way

Memories are beautiful

Phantoms are beautiful

When they come to haunt you

With a fury night and day

And finally just at night

Beautiful the way

Loyalty is beautiful

The kind that means you would kill

For your battle buddies

Here or across the ocean

Beautiful the way

Smiles for distant things

Others will never see are beautiful

And silence when you don’t fill the space

With stories too dark to share

You are heart-breakingly beautiful

Beautiful the way

Opening up about hard-lived days

And carrying all this with you is beautiful

Absolutely

Utterly

Wrenchingly

Beautiful